Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Righting Wrongs

"Why is it that hate comes out so easily, yet...love? It gets trapped inside.”

Sometimes life makes you feel like this air bubble under the ice

…trapped.


And that is how the man and I felt recently.

Add to that the fact that
1. both of us are stubborn,
2. we are not always the most diplomatic,
3. the children sense an non-uniform front and take advantage of that, pushing lots of buttons
4. when at this point we tend to make make stupid decisions while trying to avoid others
5. we both attack problems from different directions. Although slow to anger once there I am an in your face type of person. The man usually very vivacious, tends to become silent. He tries solving problems by doing long waited for chores….aka staying out of shot of me!

This could be a volatile mix but for the most part the man and I almost never fight. However, about every three years we make up for it by having a whopper… To the point that I would rather be living in the streets than married to this man much longer.

We are frick and frack, complete and total opposites. He is an extrovert and I am an introvert. He is a jokester and I hate to be the butt of the joke, he is tall and thin where as I am short and fat, he likes to be hot and I like it cooler, he falls asleep at the drop of a pin and I lie awake, he likes to sleep in and I am an early riser, he likes hot and spicy food and I see no reason to burn every taste bud off my tongue and call it dinner, he doesn’t mind being late and it grates on my very last nerve because there is no excuse for it when you know the time to be there before hand, he likes TV and I could cut the cable without even blinking an eye, I can eat a salad and call it dinner but there better be something that previously mooed, clucked baaed or oinked on his plate for him to do so, I like country music and classical rock and he will listen to heavy metal and whatever the kids are listening too now and trying to pass off as music, he loves watching Funniest Home Video's and I am horrified that people getting hurt is funny.

So you see how we can get to the breaking point. The past week, the honey-do-list was dwindling quickly.  Things were definitely politely icy around Happy Acres. 

We were heading full steam into a block wall when #1 and Sir T made their announcement. Shortly after they left for home on Sunday, we hit that wall. And the only reason I am not out on the street right now is because after all of that, I am madly in love this man and luckily he loves me too. We blow up, we pick up, patch up and make up.

I guess it took knowing we would be hearing… “To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part”… real soon to finally push us to the point where we had to realize what was important. We tend to get so wrapped up in work, animals, kids and everyone else’s woes that we don’t have time to take care of each other.

You would think after years of this we would be better at it and recognize the early warning signs. But then I forgot to mention the one thing we do have in common…we are both dimwitted.

2 comments:

cyndy said...

You've heard that thing about opposites?

Face it, you were made for each other ;-)

...so did you buy his Valentines day gift yet?

Sandie Knapp said...

We all come up against that wall now and then. It's what we do when we get there that counts. Obviously you both know what to do to make it right again. :)